Back in December of 2017 there was a WhatsApp message about a little one year old girl from a partner organization that worked with another orphanage in Hyderabad. It wasn’t unusual for SCH to get requests to take children and as we skimmed her records I remember my heart dropping. The reports that accompanied the message weren’t good. This child was sick and would only get sicker. I remember sitting in my bedroom talking to Brittany who I co-fostered with at the time. This baby had a life limiting diagnosis. How could we take her and willing love a child that we didn’t know if she would make it till Christmas? But how could we not. A couple of days later we headed to the hospital to pick up Sushrutha (Talitha) and she came back to Anchor Gold.
Those first weeks with Sushrutha were blurs. She slept all day and cried almost non-stop in the night. Brittany and I took care of her and took different shifts of sleep so we could take turns rocking her. We were unwilling to exposure our caregivers to the pain of loving and losing a child. Instead of being the Mother Theresa I thought I would be taking care of a baby on comfort care I was grumpy and sleep deprived. There were many nights I sat frustrated with her in a rocking chair, begging her to sleep. And despite the unknowns Sushrutha stayed with us. She grew and she got sick and we would all hold our breathes wondering if this was the end. And then she would come home from the hospital and we would all sigh a breathe of relief. Hope felt too fragile so we held on for one more day with our little bird. Eventually one of our caregivers, Nagalaxmi, declared that Sushrutha was her baby and stole her from Brittany and I’s care. I always think how much I could learn from the caregivers who worked at SCH. They were so much more skilled at knowing how to love and also how to let go. They nurtured and loved kids and then handed them over to their adoptive parents. How naive to think that I was protecting them by keeping Sushrutha to ourselves when in reality they would always teach me more about how to love. From the moment Nagalaxmi started taking care of Sushrutha she was always the best dressed child. Nagalaxmi loved Sushrutha deep.
Sushrutha’s health was rocky and she would get better and then decline. As my time at SCH came to a close Sushrutha no longer cried all night. She was tethered to an oxygen concentrator and a continuous pulse ox. Once Salim was adopted she started sleeping in bed with me, filling my empty nights when I got sad and ensuring that we could quickly catch if she was struggling. The day I left to come back to the States I held her and cried, convinced that I would never see her again on this side of earth. Her health then was so fragile and everyday she was alive seemed like a stolen miracle. Then I watched her from afar. And she not only lived but she started to thrive. She had bumps along the way but she celebrated birthdays, Christmas’, and got to go places that weren’t the hospital. And when I went to visits SCH last May she was one of the first children I said hi to, in disbelief that she was still here, kicking her legs and making her ankle chains jingle. Her checks just as prefect as ever and her beloved Nagalaxmi still ensuring her hair and outfit matching.
Sushrutha continued to do well until she didn’t. Last December I expected to get a message any day saying that she had passed away. But then she slowly got better and had a couple of good months before she passed away suddenly but peacefully. When I look back on Sushrutha’s life I see everyday miracles. So often we try to find God in the earthquakes but instead he’s there in the still, small voice. He was there in Sushrutha. There was no miracleous healing but there was birthdays that we never thought she would celebrate. There was days and nights that He sustained her. God was there in the miracle that was her life. He was there in the love Nagalaxmi poured out on her. He was there in the lives of her biological family. He was there throughout it all and despite it all. No moment of her time on earth was wasted and her story is a firm testament to the miracles that we so often trip over, craning our necks to find bigger and better things when the best things are already right in front of us. Sushrutha was an invitation to enjoy everyday for exactly what it was and nothing else. The world is a little less quiet without her ankle chains jingling as she kicked her legs but what a miracle her life truly was.