Waiting Wednesday: Penny

Penny-3-300x300Penny is the sweetest 8 year old who is in need of a forever family to call her own! Penny has the greatest giggle and the brightest smile. Penny has been in the care of Sarah’s Covenant Homes for the past 4 years and although she is receiving great care she needs a family that is willing to call her their daughter and give her unconditional love.

Penny’s official age is 8 but we believe that she might be a year or two younger. She is small for her age, which might be due to malnutrition or related to her genetic syndrome. We are unsure of Penny’s official diagnosis but several guesses we have are Rubinstein–Taybi syndrome, Angelman Syndrome, or some other genetic condition potentially coupled with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. Penny is also profoundly deaf and wears glasses.

Penny’s joints hyperextend but with extensive physical therapy and leg braces we have

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Penny practices standing several times a day 

seen some improvement with her ability to weight bear. She started crawling in the Fall of 2017 and now crawls all over her house. She recently started taking steps when supported at the waist and her physical therapist thinks she will be ready for a gait trainer soon. Now that Penny is on the move she loves to crawl and find her favorite things! Penny loves to find cups that have something in them and is known for her ability to find the one cup in the whole house that has water in it. She will pull up to kneeling to get a cup on a table and has even pulled over a whole mop bucket in her quest to find water! Penny also loves the color green and her favorite toys are green. She doesn’t have good play skills but will entertain herself for hours with her favorite green toys.

Although Penny loves everyone she is attached to “her people”. Recently when her long time caregiver was out of town and myself and her IMG_6349other house mom where out of town to attend a conference she was upset for the 3 days when we were all gone. When we got back she wanted to be hugged and picked up and would cry every time we put her down. Even if she cannot speak she is well aware of the comings and goings of everyone and would thrive in a family with a consistent routine. Penny is currently learning to communicate through picture symbols. She uses pictures squares and was recently introduced to the Ipad where she is learning with the same picture symbols. We tried sign language for a while but she never caught on so we switched over to picture symbols and she does much better! She will use the pictures to request more of an activity and could so much more with consistent speech therapy.

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Penny loves to play with shaving cream

Penny has also started to feed herself with her hands and she loves to eat! One of the few times Penny gets upset is if her mealtimes are late. She is drinking out of an open cup with assistance and Penny loves to drink milk, water, and juice. Some of Penny’s other favorite activities besides eating are swinging, going for walks, attending class with her teacher, playing with sensory materials especially water beads, and finding green toys.

Whenever I think of Penny the word joy comes to mind. Penny is the most joy filled child I have ever met. She has a joy that supersedes her circumstances. And she would bring such joy to a family! It will not be an easy journey for her family, Penny will need life long care and there will be challenges, but Penny is a child that helps you find joy in the ordinary and laughter in the mundane task of brushing teeth or changing a shirt. Penny loves to be on the go and would do great in an active family who was willing to put her in a stroller and bring her along on their adventures and everyday tasks. I have known Penny for the past 3 years and it is heavy on my heart currently to find her a family that will love her and encourage her as she grows. She may not be able to verbalize her want for a family but she will thrive in a family and bring joy to a family she can call her own.

Family Requirements

  • Available to both single women and married couples between the ages of 25-55. Married couples must be married for a minimum of 2 years and couples with more than 1 divorce are considered on a case-by-case basis. Married couples combined ages should not be more than 110.
  • No more than 4 children already in the home (Penny could be the 5th child)
  • Adoptive parents should be more than 25 years older then the child they are adopting. (This requirement can be relaxed on a case by case basis)
  • Cost is between $30,000-$40,000 but there are grants and other ways to fundraise to defray the costs associated with her adoption.
  • The process can take between 18-24 months but recently the process has been speeding up and families are getting kids home faster
  • Either 2 shorter trips or 1 longer trip to her country is required to finalize her adoption and bring her home.

For more info about the requirements to adopt Penny please click here

For more info about Penny and to inquire about adopting her please visit her Reece’s Rainbow profile

Even if you can’t adopt Penny please share this blog post so that her family can find her! And please pray for a family to step up for Penny so that she can know the love of a forever family.

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Dear Waiting Mamas this Christmas

Today was a wonderful Christmas spent with some wonderful children. My six children were spoiled with presents, chocolates, and lots of kisses. But the best present of all, a forever family, was absent today. I sat down to write a post about our Christmas but adoption has been on my mind so much today that I wrote about that today. I do my best to create a family for my kids but ultimately I’m just standing in the gap until a family steps forward to welcome them into their family forever. 

Dear Waiting Mamas this Christmas,

As I sit here watching my six children sleep I think about you. Whether you are days away from adopting, waiting to be matched, just starting your home study, or just had a feeling that there should be one more stocking on your mantle today, know that I thought about you while I celebrated Christmas with children who aren’t mine to keep. Today as I took photos of all my kids opening presents I took them for you. I took them with faith that someday my six kids would have forever families to celebrate Christmas with. I want you to have photos of the Christmas’ that you missed while you were waiting. And someday more than anything I want to show you these photos and give you the Christmas trees we made with your child’s once little feet.

Waiting Mamas know that we are standing in the gaps until you can get here. People from all over came together to provide Christmas to your child and to remind me that there is good in the world. Tonight we prayed for you, like we do every night. We prayed that next Christmas you would get to celebrate with your child. We prayed for more adoption matches, for adoption movement, and for potential families to see kids for who they are, not for their disability. Lying in bed tonight I prayed for families that looked around the table today and felt that there should be one more plate, one more chair, one more child to love. I prayed for God to give them the faith to welcome a new child like the Holy Family welcomed Jesus all those years ago. Know that as you wait we prayed and hoped for you.

I know the kids I take care of aren’t mine to keep. They are God’s and I pray that someday he will lead them to your family. Even when Caden calls me mama and melts my heart I know that someday he will call someone else mama. This Christmas my heart broke knowing that my six foster children don’t have any families pursuing them and every day I pray that a family will fall in love with the amazing children I know they are. Loving these children breaks and stretches my heart but I wouldn’t have it any other way. Some days I dream of adopting all six of them but in my heart I know these aren’t the kids I’m supposed to adopt. But as I kissed their heads tonight as they feel asleep and whispered to them that they were loved I saw the beauty that comes from being a temporary mama. I see how special it is to celebrate first Christmas’ with the kids that I love. Someday the kids that call me mom will be mine to keep but today I celebrated with the six God gave me to be a mother to in this season. Someday I hope that I can tell you stories from this Christmas. How Caden guarded his new toys and screamed whenever someone else touched them. How a local movie star, Vishunu Manchu, came to visit dressed as Santa Claus. How much we laughed and just enjoyed each other this Christmas. Christmas is a time of joy and there was joy in our lives today.

So to all those mothers whose armed ached a little bit more today for a child who is not home yet know that today we loved on your child. We celebrated Christmas and your child knows that God loves them so much he sent down his only son. Tonight we kissed your child goodnight and told them they were so loved. Today we stood in as their temporary mama. They may not have celebrated Christmas with all your traditions but we did the best we could. And we pray that next Christmas it will be you, not us tucking them into bed and kissing them good night. And I pray that this Christmas, if the children I will one day adopt are already born, that someone else is standing in the gap for me. Letting them know that they are so loved, until I can come get them.

Waiting Mamas, I know you wish your child did not have to go another Christmas without being home. But know that those of us who fill in while you wait did everything we could to make sure your child knew they were loved this Christmas. Waiting is not forever and we will take good care of your child until you can get here.

Love,

A foster mama to six kids

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