Welcome Baby S!

Yesterday afternoon a new child came to Anchor Home! It was an exciting yet heavy day. It’s been almost a year since we have received a new child and we are so excited that baby S is here!

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On Monday Brittany and I visited another orphanage where we have received most of our other children from. We don’t go often as we have many children already in our care who need most of our time and attention but we still like to visit every now and then to check on the kids and get some baby snuggles in! We started off snuggling babies but halfway through the visit we went to the room that has the special needs children. When we went in I scanned the room like I usually do and noted many familiar faces. There seemed to more kids then the last time I went and when my eyes stopped on Baby S I knew right away that she was very malnourished and sick. Brittany and I got her details and spent some time with her and the other kids who live in that room. Both of us walked away knowing that we had to at least ask about the possibility of bringing her to SCH.

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Back in the spring I met another baby who needed to come to SCH. I knew it in my heart but I didn’t push hard enough and held back due to fear. She passed away before she could come to SCH. I knew with Baby S it had to be different, that I couldn’t see another child in need of specialized care and not speak up. I’m well aware that SCH cannot save every child. The problem is simply too big and we are a bandaid on a gaping hole. (Which is why we are trying to shift and add family empowerment to our scope of services and work on reuniting kids as much as possible) But if I personally see a child that needs help I have to do everything in my power to do something. Even if its scary, even if its one more child to fundraise for, or another child to provide care for. When a child’s life is in danger we are all called to stand up and fight for the rights of the venerable, even when its a scary thing to do.

So on Wednesday we asked our social worker to get permission to transfer Baby S to SCH’s care. And on Thursday in the middle of a conversation with our manager about something else we got the okay to get her that afternoon! Which is a miracle in and of itself as it could have easily taken months or been a no. And on Thursday afternoon she arrived at Anchor Home!

 

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On arrival to Anchor Home!

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After her bath and her in new pajamas! 

We immediately accessed her medical condition, gave her a bath, and put her in a new dress. All the kids were excited about the new “papa” and wanted to hold her and love her. Julie even burst into tears when I told her she couldn’t hold her until she got a bath! After bath time we dressed her in her new dress and took photos before it was time to eat. Adding a new child to the family is hard on everyone but all the kids seemed to take it in stride and when I looked around at everyone during our evening prayer my heart swelled. These kids love and love even when they have been hurt so much. They’ve welcome in new kids and continue to blow me away with their love and concern!

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Finally getting to hold the new “papa” 

 

 

Today we spent most of the day at doctors or running tests. Baby S is 7 years old. She weighs 10 kgs (22 pounds), has a repaired cleft lip and a cleft palate that was repaired but developed a fistula. We originally thought she had cerebral palsy but our doctor thinks that her delays might be more related to her malnutrition. At the other orphanage there are 5 caregivers to 20 plus kids with special needs. They simply don’t have the time or education to feed a child like Baby S. She needs to be fed sitting up and slowly which simply was not happening. Hence the severe state that she is currently in. At some point this would have mad me angry but it currently just makes me very sad. Moving forward we are trying to slowly reacclimatite her to food while trying to avoid refeeding syndrome. So that basically means we start slow and steady while carefully monitoring her. And of course we have run tons of blood tests and investigations to get a good baseline and rule out any other complications.

We are so glad that we have Baby S in our care! There are several ways that everyone can pitch in and help her transition into Anchor Gold.

  1. Prayer! We need to cover Baby S in prayer! Her health, her current medical needs, and most importantly that we can reunite her with her family. She was recently relinquished due to a change in her family situation but we are praying for doors to open and the possibility of reuniting her if it is a safe situation for everyone involved!
  2. Becoming a monthly sponsor! Baby S needs $300/month to cover her daily needs. Sponsorship starts as low as $15/month! This includes a loving caregiver, nutritious food, medicine, doctors visits, and a safe home. If you sign up to become her month sponsor we will let you give us a name to choose for her online name! Online names follow children throughout their entire time at SCH (and in one case became their middle name when they were adopted!) and are very important. Sponsors receive 4 updates a year and are able to watch their sponsor child grow and thrive! Click Here to Sponsor S
  3. Donating to her one-time needs. New kids are expensive. There’s no way around that. We have to do many tests and doctors visits that cost money. Donating to her one-time needs will also allow you to suggest a name for Baby S. Click Here to Donate
  4. Buy items off Amazon! Most of the items have already been purchased but there are a few left. Amazon Wishlist 

And as per usual even if you cannot give you can share and tell Baby S story. The best way to get people involved is to share and help make others fall in love with our sweet kids and adults here!

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How Will You Leave Them?

How will you leave them? That’s a question I’ve gotten a lot over the past couple of months after my announcement that I will be transitioning out of fostering in March to go to graduate school. How will I leave the kids I’ve poured into for 2 years? How will I be able to leave the place that I’ve made home? At some point India became my home and how can I walk away from everything here? These questions rattle around my brain whenever I look ahead to 8 months from now. How will I leave them? To be honest I have no idea.

This morning I was listening to podcast on this Sunday’s gospel about  the parable of the weeds in the field. One sentiment stuck out to me as I listened- that we have to be faithful to God and sow the seeds he asks us to sow and leave the harvest up to him. I’ve been struggling with feeling that I haven’t done enough. The nature of working with these kids is that I will always feel like I haven’t done enough. Haven’t done enough therapy activities with the kids, haven’t advocated for them to get everything they need, doctors appointments left undone, and do-lists that are unfinished. With 11 kids with high needs it is hard to meet everyone’s needs. The reality is when I leave there will be things that I’ve left undone and I’m learning to be okay with that. Ultimately these kids don’t belong to me- they belong to God. And he has a plan for them that is beyond any of my therapy plans for them. I just need to plant the seeds that I can and leave the harvest up to him.

Although I’m preparing my heart to leave I know I still have 8 more amazing months with these kids and other people I love here. 8 more months of birthdays, holidays, preschool, and every small moment in between. More time to be present and pour into the kids as much as I can. It’s easy to get caught up in thinking ahead but I’m not allowing my mind to go there often just yet. I’m focusing on being present as much as possible and just enjoying life here. It would be unfair for me to focus too much on what lies ahead and not just be present in everything going on right now.

So to answer the question of how will I leave the truthful answer is I don’t know but God does. So I will focus on the next 8 months being present in my life here and working on preparing my heart to leave. He has a plan greater then my own and I know that he always guides my path as he lead me here and will lead me back.